Coach Bob Reish
Certified Business Coach | Master Trainer | Author
Dominique, This is a great question. This is an issue millions of people deal with each day. Often decisions are made at the wrong time and in the midst of emotions. One thing to remember is emotions do not understand reality. For example, when you watch a movie, you will experience a multitude of emotions based on a movie. You will experience fear with a scary movie, tears with a sad movie, or anger when an injustice is done. Even in the midst of the movie, your emotions react the same as if you are in a real situation.
When making an important decision as changing jobs or careers, you need to be sure you are making the decision based on the correct facts and with an understanding of the rewards and consequences. Often this will take time, energy, and money. Applying the correct resources to ensure you are not only making the right decision for yourself, but also family and friends who may be affected.
There are three points I would like to share that may help you in any important decision.
First, use a tool called K.W.I.N.K. This acronym stands for Knowing What I Now Know. When making an important decision, ask yourself three questions.
* Knowing what I now know, should I have started this job or career?
* Knowing what I now know, should I continue with this job or career?
* Knowing what I now know, should I discontinue with this job or career?
Understanding that our gut feeling is correct 95%-97% of the time. If you are unable to answer a clear yes or now, there may be other factors and questions that have not been addressed.
Second, separate the positives and negatives about leaving or staying. Often times when we see on paper the pros and cons, it can illuminate a clear path. When we are able to observe facts and not just emotions, clarity is often achieved.
Third, hire a coach! Often a third party who is not in the situation and who has your interests at heart is a great resource. Having a skilled coach who is able to ask the right questions and provide a perspective that helps you make the best decision is crucial. A good coach will be skilled in asking questions and clearing listen to the answers provided. A coach will desirer the content to clear your thinking to be able to make the right decision. Although the decision may not be easy to make, the answer you need to make is a result of a simple process.
Important decisions are a part of every day. It is important to be able to maneuver through the emotions that often mask themselves as facts. Clearing the field is necessary to be able to move toward your goals.
I look forward to speaking further with you and helping you become more clear in your decisions. Thank you for the opportunity to answer your questions.
Business Coach Bob Reish